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The Dangers of Women & Social Media: The Façade

Updated: Mar 24

Hello! This is a 3 part series about The Dangers of Women & Social Media.

In this series, I will take a deep dive into 3 types of women on social media:

A:) Women who become desperate for society's attention are insecure and struggle with low self-esteem.

B:) Women who feel people should focus on their external beauty rather than their inner are vain, prideful, and conceited.

C:) Women who use their body as a form of witchcraft to get what they want are seductive, lustful, and promiscuous.

It may be you do not fall into any of these 3 categories. If that is the case, take a moment, and praise The Most High! I'm being serious, praise Him! But if you do happen to fall in one, I hope this series convicts you, like it did me. I hope you never go down these paths ever again. May The Most High bless you, and encourage you in your walk of faith, in Jesus Christ's name, I do humbly pray, AMEN.

Today, I'm gonna talk about The Façade & focus specifically on:

There is also a Reflection + Ending Scripture provided at the end of the post.

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Let's Begin!

The Façade

I was a deeply insecure woman. I mean deeper than the Red-Sea-deep. TikTok & Instagram made it no better. I wanted validation. No, I yearned for validation. I had low self-esteem. I didn't know my God-given purpose, worth, OR security in Christ.

Throughout my high school years, I didn't get likes or views on my personality or character. It wasn't until college, I started to direct my attention to my external beauty. I noticed that's how girls received attention. I was gaining the validation I so wanted in high school. It was my face. It was the way I posed. It was the makeup. It was the filters. It was the body. That's where the attention was at.

I mean let's think about it. Look at the men on social media. What are they constantly posting (if they aren't Godly men)? Women half-naked or women posing seductively, right? Social media pushes this down women's throats, especially women who want to have morals and standards. Let me add: Social media falls under the Internet: you are "ENTERING the NET" of societal standards. Social media doesn't want morals or standards, they want what is pleasing to the eye: the body & face of a woman.

Society says,

"This is what's acceptable: Hair? Long and curly. Your body? Yeah, it needs to look like this. Bigger butt and pretty breasts. If you don't have them, workout or get surgery. Wear more revealing clothes, and PLEASE make it tighter, we NEED to see imprints."

So insecure women, who focused on their character, feel pressured by society and well--they give in and rap out. Oh! And let's not forget about relationships! Sometimes women dress a certain way to attract a certain man. In their heart, they really don't agree with it, or they actually feel disgusted about how they portray themselves, BUT that's what makes them FEEL accepted.

It's now validation over morality.

[And may I add, if you have to dress in a provocative way to attract a man, he is NOT for you.]

Women are also great at hiding their feelings. A local high-school teen girl, who is the most popular and attractive, could smile one day, and commit suicide the next. Women. Are. Great. At. Hiding. Their. Feelings. A lot of insecure women might seem like they have the happiest lives. They're the prettiest girls, all the people like them, but deep down: they don't even love themselves. They don't even know who they are anymore, and then the depression hits.

They said in their HEARTS, "This is what the media wants, so this is what the media gets. It doesn't matter what I feel. I want the attention. I want to feel appreciated. I want the validation. This is what I have to do. People aren't attracted to my morals, character, or personality.

The TRUE me doesn't get the attention I want, but the NEW me will bring forth the attention I need."

Thus, the façade.

My Results For Putting Up The Façade

I was depressed. I was deeply insecure. My self-esteem was in hades. Every time I posted on social media, I had to check the insights: likes, views, & comments. I was desperate for validation. I felt like my morality and innocence wasn't attractive in the world, so I succumbed to the world's way. Society's validation is what made me feel secure. One more time: Society's validation is what made me feel secure. How depressing does that sound?

Satan Is At Work

This is the effect of succumbing to the world's way:

You will delete a post in a heartbeat, if it doesn't get like 5 likes in 1 minute. You will delete a story, if your story doesn't get any likes. You'll delete a video, if it doesn't get at least a 100 views. You might start to question, "Was the makeup too much? Not enough skin? Maybe, I need to post a different way. If I put that picture first, It probably would have gotten more likes. Next time, I'll just do it differently."

All because we enjoy a false sense of security.

This is the work of the devil. To get women to enjoy a false sense of security. Security built on the foundation of society's validation. The enemy's job is to steal, kill, and destroy. He doesn't love mankind, and he wants nothing more but to destroy us. It can be emotionally, mentally, or physically, he will always be #1 in line. If women, do not wake up, and leave this never-ending cycle of despair, it could end up killing them. I was in the book of Daniel earlier, and came across a scripture that stuck to me. It is a prophecy about the Antichrist. It says,

"He will corrupt and destroy many who enjoy a false sense of security". Daniel 8:25 AMP Version.


Here's a couple questions: How many selfies do you have of the same pose, so you can determine which one would get the MOST attention? How many selfies do you have in your library? What's the average amount of selfies you take in ONE day? I just want you to keep in mind what Paul said in 2 Timothy 3:2, "For people will be lovers of self [narcissistic, self-focused]..." AMP Version.

All I can say is: wake up. If you are putting up a façade, WAKE. UP. I had to wake up, and Jesus woke me up hard. It won't immediately go away, but if you're disciplined, you will get there. The Holy Spirit still convicts me of this TIL THIS DAY. I mean I can go try to post something of myself, and I will view it for like 5 minutes because I hear the Holy Spirit saying, "Are you posting this to seek validation, Valencia?".

And I'm just like, "'re right, Holy Spirit.". He definitely convicts me of Galatians 1:10.

Pray for His conviction on this matter. Trust me, He will convict you too. The Most High corrects whom He loves (Proverbs 3:11-12).

View yourself in the eyes of The Most High, not in the eyes of man. The eyes of men lead to insecurity, but the eyes of The Most High lead to security. Yearn for the validation of The Most High, not man. The Lord hates the façade. Take off the mask, repent, and be what He called you to be. I leave with this scripture:

"But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 AMP Version.

May The Most High Bless You Throughout Your Journey!

[Look out for the next part of "The Dangers of Women & Social Media"!]

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